Sunday, March 29, 2015

"Times Square Couldn't Shine As Bright As You" {Carly 3 Years}

Our little girl turned 3.  Although she thinks she turned this number in January, she has only been strutting her stuff as an official little girl for a few weeks now (okay...a whole month).  I've contemplated a lot about how to capture her at this incredibly (and most certainly my favorite so far) fun stage.  The saying, "Sugar & spice and everything nice" keeps coming to mind, so I think I'll go with that. :)

Sugar
Besides the fact that our sweet girl really enjoys the taste of sugar; particularly in the form of candy or ice cream, she also does things throughout the day that are so endearing.  Free spirited, she is, she will tell you exactly what's on her mind.  So often we hear things like, "You are the BEST!" or "Ganks you SO much."  It's music to our ears when we hear, "That makes me SO happy!" or "At be yike a pan?"  She loves to spend her time fluttering in the world of imagination and often invites anyone there who'd like to go.  She can never get enough of her friends and alternates between being the leader or the follower.  She is so flexible.  I keep saying to Brian that at this point I could do just about anything with her or take her anywhere.  She's rational and understanding, she's caring and fun and really loves her life.  She allows herself to become incredibly excited and puts a lot of thought into what her day will look like.  She loves Luke day in and day out.  She is rarely upset with him and even shares her toys on most occasions.  We love hearing them giggle together.

Spice
If I had a dollar for every time someone commented on her expression, I would have paid for her college by now!  Really, truly, we hear all the time that she is the most expressive little girl "I've ever met."  From her teachers at Sunday school, to the mothers of friends to strangers we meet throughout the day...her expressive face and theatrical body language is something we've fallen in love with.  You can imagine, however, that if her mood swings to the "spicy" side that expression can be channeled into a dangerous form of melting down or disobedience.  Fortunately for us the Lord has made us in His image and inherently good; so the pendulum swings toward positive expression most of the time.  I think really when I think of Carly's "spice," I think of her will.  I've always believed being strong-willed is quite important in life, so I value that she has desires to do things her way and that she will fight for her point to be made.  But that also means that there are a lot of times she sits in time out, gets a little booty swat or loses privileges. I can't wait to see how the her personality continues to spice up our life.

Everything Nice
Carly has quite a few things near and dear to her heart, so that's what this section is for.  She does say with much inflection in her voice, "Niiiiice."  She is obsessed with wearing princess dresses and changes into her Queen Elsa or Princess Anna dress each time she wakes up or walks in the door from an outing.  We even went into her room the other night to turn off her lamp and she had gotten out of bed to put on her Elsa gown.  Books are loved by our little miss, and she will generally choose the same book to read at night for weeks on end and then all of a sudden be onto the next one.  She always takes 3 books to bed with her and we generally find more when we go to turn off her light.  Everything nice also includes her Monkey, her Paci (Lord have mercy) and her long "white" hair that she asks, "why does my hair get so many knots in it all the time?"  She knows the answer to that question: she twirls it with her fingers and refuses to wear it any way but down.  Most days she is also seen wearing one of her two necklaces and brightly painted fingernails and toenails.  Ah, yes, she is "sugar & spice and everything nice."

Carly, I can't believe that little infant who refused to sleep and cried during most of her awake hours is this same sweet, stubborn, strong-willed, fun-loving little girl I get to spend the majority of my time learning alongside.  I love being with you and you make my heart jump for joy. I am so grateful for our ever-forming friendship and bond.  God has certainly blessed me with a beautiful daughter.  I pray every night that you will someday choose to live a spirit-filled life and that you'll know that being "blessed" means that you've been saved by Grace.  Welcome to childhood, my dear!




Thursday, March 5, 2015

"Learning to Fly"

Carly is three! Which means I've been a mother for three years.  Each year I've reflected on the important lessons I've learned. Boy I learned a lot that first year…and continued to see the bigger picture of why we are here and who God designed us to be during Carly’s second year of life.  Well here we are and another year has passed—certainly my easiest one when comparing the three—and I do have some take a ways to share. I hope they can encourage you to always pursue growth in yourself, enjoy the journey and do some self reflection along the way.

1. Choose Grace

I don’t think it matters if you are a parent or not, choosing grace is simply what we have been called to do.   It’s applicable in all ares of life, marriage and parenting included.  This is something I am learning as of recently and how it applies to my life right now.  Grace is actually the word I chose to focus on in 2015.  There are times I am way to quick to anger and slow to have patience.  What I can tell you is as I am on this journey of being the best me I can possibly be, choosing grace before any other reaction during an interaction with my husband or my children, allows for walls to come down rather than be built up.

2. Strive for Balance

Balance was my “word” for 2014.  I wanted to achieve balance in managing my husband’s needs, the needs of my children and my own needs. I wanted to be balanced in the way I exercised, ate, worked, volunteered, everything.  This girl and her type A personality doesn't lend itself well to balance.  Instead, I’ve always been an extremist…for as long as I can remember.  It’s either the whole pan of brownies or none at all.  I can’t just have one.  But!  I've come so far in this area throughout this past year and I am so pleased with the result of striving for balance.  I have seen a shift in the way I process through my feelings and impulses; and it naturally translates onto those who live with me. Brian is such a picture of balance so fortunately for me I had him helping me achieve *more* balance in my life this year.

3. Enjoy the Journey

I have quite a few friends who had babies this year.  A few of my closest friends had their first children and it’s been so endearing to me to hear them talk about their babes.  Sometimes I hear something come out of their mouth that I say to myself, “there is no way that is going to go well”…or “they should do this”…or “why haven’t they listened to”….but then I realize that I said the exact same thing when Carly was a baby.  We have to figure parenting out on our own.  Advice may be helpful sometimes but in the end a little trial and error is okay.  How many times do we look back a few years and say, “I wish I knew then what I knew now.”  I've decided to be okay with who I’ve been, who I am and look forward to who I will become as I grow and change.  So far my three year trek has been pretty rewarding, so I’m going to sit back and allow myself to enjoy the ride.

4. Daily Devotions

How many times will I have to learn that I cannot survive without spending intentional time with my Savior?! How many?  I can be as balanced of a human being as they come but if I am not walking day by day with Christ I will never be satisfied with life.  It’s like an anti-depressant, a form of medicine I can’t go without.  And yet I assure you there were many days this past year I figured I could do it on my own.  My happiest days are when I fix the kids breakfast, take my Bible and my coffee and go sit on the couch…even if only for 7 minutes.  Time with God helps me achieve the first three things on this list. It’s so worth it.

5. Change is Okay

One of the things that I've found a bit challenging this year is accepting the changes both Carly & Luke are making.  It’s like: here we are having the perfect eating schedule/sleeping schedule/daily routine and all of a sudden one of them turns the corner on another milestone and I am fighting to hold on to what we had.  The most recent example of this is seeing that Carly’s naps are too quickly coming to an end.  Her whole sleep schedule/patterns have changed in the weeks leading up to her being 3 and it’s sending us into a slight tizzy.   But she’s THREE! She’s changing and we need to have the flexibility to change with her.

6. Except the Season

Sometimes I so badly want to be able to send my kids to school or over to a friends house so I can go to the gym, run some errands, do a little baking, take on a hobby or veg on the couch.  But that’s not the season I’m in and my, my do I know that stage will come all to soon.  It’s okay that I don’t always feel like wearing nice clothes because rest assured they will end up with snot or food on them, it’s okay that it takes me 2 hours to run one errand, it’s great that many days I spend hours on the floor investing in the little years.  When I was a brand new Mom I envied the Mom’s who had a 2 year old and a baby and yet somehow had time for blogging, crafting, throwing smashingly awesome birthday parties, meal planning and volunteering each week in the church nursery. And I was over here like—holy crap I have one baby and I am way in over my head!  But that was the stage I was in—and the journey I was on.  Had I just accepted that and realized that not two years later I would also be doing all of those things, I would have been able to have a lot more grace on myself.

7. Meal Plan

I still don’t do this every week—but it makes a big difference when I do.  It means only one trip to the store for the week (sometimes we end up there 4 times/week if meal planning hasn't happened), it means healthier meals, it means better time management & it means happy hubby.

8. Document the Everyday

I learned this lesson good last year through Project 365.  The little moments that you capture through both photo and video you will always cherish.  Someday I will look back and know exactly what our day-to-day lives looked like and not just the holidays, birthdays & special events.

9. Validate Exhaustion

Don’t ever underestimate how tired you are!  And for that matter—don’t ever be frustrated with how little you accomplish when you first bring home a baby.  Goodness those first three months are so fun but SO hard.  Even when we helped Luke transition from nursing twice/night to one/night it made all the different in my functionality for the next day.  Do not minimize just how tired you are—and have a little grace for YOU!

10. Clean Up As You Go

It took me all year with two kids to realize that if I would just pick up one activity before moving onto the next that I would feel less overwhelmed at the end of the day.

Sunday, March 1, 2015

"I Just Want to Celebrate"

Who knew that having 3 of 4 birthdays in the family all within a month would create such wonderful chaos! I thought December was exciting and busy...looks like January will always be as well!  Here are all the birthdays we've celebrated this year (And if Carley & Meg would have been here they would have been celebrated, too! I love that I am essentially the exact same age as 3 of me dearest friends!)!

Nikki

Chris & Nikki came to Florida to see us mid-January! Have I blogged about that yet? Oh wait...I haven't done much writing this year! Good thing Project 365 is over!  Anyway...Carly & I had so much fun making Nikki's cake...and eating it, too!



Luke

Little guy turned one, in case you missed that. ;)  Thank you, thank you to everyone who sent gifts.  He {and me} felt so loved!  We celebrated him for weeks on end.  First was an attempted smash cake on the lawn outside our clubhouse.....




....He hated it.

This is how his cake smash really went...







Next up was a full day at Magic Kingdom with Chris, Nikki & Cooper!  I love birthdays and all day long I kept giving him big squeezes, nose rubs and smooches!  He had a great day and was well celebrated with a DELICIOUS meal at Liberty Tree Tavern...





....We are pretty sure his favorite part of the day was having chocolate milk in his bottle. ;)


And he was celebrated the next night at Boma...


Mama/Tricia/Me

My birthday was made EXTRA special by a surprise celebration with some friends.  I felt so loved. Have I ever mentioned that I love surprises?? :)


Brian & the kids made me crepes for breakfast (my fav!) then took me to the Boardwalk and all the way around the World Showcase in EPCOT.  I got this lovely photo by some flowers...


...and enjoyed my two favorite EPCOT treats, Strawberry Oolong Tea Slush from China & School Bread from Norway.


I'm so thankful for these three people!


Nana

Guess how this lady celebrated turning....42 (53...I think)?! She was loving on my children so Brian and I could cruise around the Bahamas! She said she forgot it was her birthday until that afternoon when she saw the date! Don't worry though...we had a special meal and dessert prepared for her and we celebrated prior to the cruise.  I do, however, think she was a bit over shadowed by the kids' birthday party which happened next day...


Carly

We found out at Christmas that opening too many presents at once is overwhelming and just doesn't make sense to little Miss C.  I mean, really, why not just open one present each day leading up to your birthday?!  18 presents in 18 days is what she got....no to mention the gifts she opened at her birthday party.  Thank you so those who sent gifts...they were a part of the one gift a day extravaganza!

Legos from cousin Cora

Lollipop from nanny Jen

Princesses & Play doh from a variety of people!
Between princess dolls, pretty dresses, candy, play activities, books and PLAY DOH this girl never ceases her playing!

February 18th we spent the morning at EPCOT...

Daddy took Luke for a snooze so we could have some girl time--here we are in our shell while enjoying the Finding Nemo attraction.

Carly running through the park singing, "Let it Go"

First time for "Ugg" boots in Florida! It was a cool temperature but a warm sun...making for a perfect day.


Lunch eating her favorite food--pizza...and ice cream...



And the evening was spent at Puggles, our Wednesday night programming at church where Brian & I have been teaching Carly's class since September.  Carly LOVES Puggles and never goes a day without asking if it's "time to go to Puggles soon."  So really there was nothing more fitting to celebrate her birthday than at Puggles with some of her favorite friends.  When we asked her what she wanted to do for her birthday: "Wear my Queen Elsa dress and my "C" necklace to PUGGLES!" And that's exactly what we did.